Being an African mother
Recently we celebrated mothers day. It is easy to say happy mother's day. But as being a mother is an awesome thing in the African context, it is also terrible! Here are my wacky observations on being an African mother:-
1. Among the Africans sexuality is the responsibility of the woman. Men do anything and act in stupid ways but in the end it is the woman's fault. A man will have many women and he is a hero but a lady who has been with a few known men is a kinyangarika bure kabisa.
2. Among the Africans, no man is barren; so all women have to be fertile by all means! For any woman among the Africans, finding a way to become a mother is mandatory irrespective of the man's capacity.
3. Pregnancy is the responsibility of the woman. Men pay little or not attention to pregnancy and the need of the pregnant woman. No wonder you will see a 8th month pregnant woman with a jembe on a farm!
4. Choice of a child's sex is the mother's role. Therefore, a woman has to find a way of delivering sons or daughters as the man desires.
5. Family planning is the mother's role. Therefore, let the woman make a mistake of getting pregnant when the husband is not interested then she will know mayai si kuku
6. Ensuring Children look like the father is the mother's responsibility. Otherwise the mother will have to explain why the children do not look exactly like the father or his relatives
7. Among the Africans, the man's responsibility towards children seems relegated to ensuring they have a roof and school fees. The emotional and social well-being of a child is purely the responsibility of the woman. Sadly, many men can't provide the roof and the school fees and are relegated to being a nuisance.
8. Once a mother, a woman has no right to dream and demand. Normally, in our culture a mother is deemed kwisha. She should have no other ambitions and desires except to take care of her children. No wonder many mothers suffer neglect as husbands flounder and frolic around.
9. In the Men's World that is our African Culture, a woman has no right until the man has his right. And in pursuit of his right, use of violence by the men is justified. And so the number of women that enjoy a beating many a times in a week is almost all encapsulating.
10. The mother's responsibility is so total; the welfare of the child is completely about the mother. So our mothers and our women can not dare take the walk. They suffer silently because if they pursuit what is right by them, how would the children survive.
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO ALL MOTHERS AFRICAN MOTHERS!!!